Week 4 Group Activity

 Personal Development

Group Members:

        Advento, Juris Michael G.

        Danganan, Christian R.

        Lagaya, Gian Lawrence G.

        Pansacola, Hannah Joy E.

        Rasay, Lance Gabriel S.

Read and analyze the situations carefully.

1. Your friends asked you to try to smoke cigarettes. They said that if you don’t try it, you will be out to their group.

What is the problem?

        The problem present in the above-mentioned situation is that my friends force me to smoke cigarettes otherwise, it could jeopardize my connections with them. This is also known as substance abuse during adolescence. Aside from cigarettes, one can be forced to use drugs and alcoholic beverages that can lead to compromised school performances and diminished health.

     What is your responsibility?

I am responsible for my decision if I will choose to smoke cigarettes in order to stay in the group which could also trigger me to start a bad habit (smoking) or if I will choose not to smoke even if it means that I will be kicked out of the group. With this decision I will prevent myself from using cigarettes that can lead to more bad habits such as drinking and even using prohibited drugs. In addition, I am also responsible if I will just let my friends maintain their unhealthy habit like smoking.

What would be the solution?

        Friendship is more important than bad habits like smoking. I will tell my friends that if they will not respect my rejection, then our relationship is too shallow; it is not that deep to delve for. The basis of friendship is not through some bad habits like smoking, true friendship comes with respect, trust, and comfort with whom you’re with. In addition, I will educate them about the negative effects of smoking to their health in order to eradicate this bad habit from their lifestyle. It is not yet too late for a change, if you desire to save our friendship, it should matter more than some silly cigarettes.

2. You have always enjoyed badminton until you found out that your crush liked it, too. One time during practice, though, your crush watched your training and that made you conscious. This eventually resulted in errors that your coach scolded you in front of the audience. You felt embarrassed especially to your crush who happened to be there in the venue.

What is the problem?

I became too self-conscious, which was normal during the transition from childhood to adulthood. During this period, teens are more susceptible to change which also includes personal perspectives like being more aware of how they look and how they perceive themselves. As an adolescent, the presence of my crush affected the way I see myself inside the court, which influenced my activities, resulting in multiple errors.

What is your responsibility?

        I am responsible for my actions on how I will act under a certain condition. In this one, I am responsible with the errors that I made. It is my decision on how I will perform in the training with my crush watching. It is my responsibility to perform well in the training without being distracted.

What would be the solution?

Apologizing to your coach is the first solution to solve this problem and admit that you were distracted. With these, you should learn from it and stay focused on training next time despite the presence of people that makes your heart beat faster. Crushes serve as an inspiration for us to do things better than the usual. They shouldn’t be a hindrance or a distraction in meeting our full potential. Let us do things for the betterment of ourselves, not for others.  

3. Your friend invited you to sleep over in their house to finish the research paper that you need to submit the next day. However, you are anxious because your classmate’s house is far, and your parents might not allow you to go.

What is the problem?

The problem in this given situation is the anxiety that arises from my thoughts about my parents' decision, if they'll allow me to go or not. This anxiety existed because certain outcomes, like having the research paper unfinished, came up inside my mind. Thoughts like these usually result into more loops and chains of thoughts which creates an unhealthy state of mind. This anxiety is actually just a temporary state of mind because this can be resolved by asking my parents about their decision. Meaning, I can only be sure about it if I ask them if they'll allow me to go.

What is your responsibility?

             My responsibility is to find ways on how I will cooperate to finish our research paper in case my parents wouldn't allow me to go. Moreover, I am also responsible for not disappointing my parents once they allowed me to go. I will not do anything that will break their trust.

What would be the solution?

            Talk to my parents with full of respect. I will tell them that I will take care of myself once I leave. I will also tell them that what we will do is only academically inclined, so that I will not disappoint them. In case my parents didn't let me leave, I will inform my group mates that I will just do the paperwork at home and send the file to them.